It is common place now especially in this environment of ours for parents to constantly curse, insult and pray against their kids when they do wrong. We hear statements like “You are very stupid!”, “You are a lost hope!”, “with this character of yours, you will not reach anywhere in Life!”, and a lot more.
Dear parent, please ask yourself, why do you resort to insult/curses? Is it because that is what you have known all your life growing up? What do you seek to achieve from that?

According to Shaikh Ibn Baaz in Fataawa Islaamiyyah [3/219], cursing children is a major sin and likewise cursing others that do not deserve to be cursed. As the Prophet (PBUH) said “To verbally abuse a Muslim is disobedience to Allah…” [Ibn Majah: 3940] Ibn Baaz (Rahimahullah) further mentions that it is obligatory to repent to Allah, hold one’s tongue from abusing one’s children and making plenty of du’as for their guidance and amendment.

Dear parent, it is upon you to forgive and pardon the shortcomings of your children whilst they are young, and to have utmost patience with their harmful speech or actions as their minds are not well developed to prevent them from making such mistakes. Think about it; are you also perfect now? Don’t you make mistakes? Remember: A child will always be a child and he is called so for a reason. There are various ways of correcting or disciplining a child without resorting to insults, curses, beating and the likes. We need to stop passing down this character from generation to generation to the extent that a parent that doesn’t do the above is seen as “spoiling” their child.

Think about it; did the Prophet (PBUH) himself EVER insult or curse his child or the children around him? Ofcourse not! Then isn’t He our role-model?
The Prophet (PBUH) said “Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth, lest that coincides with a time when Allah is asked and He gives, so he answers your prayer”  [Muslim 3014]

Additionally, cursing & swearing at one’s children affects them psychologically in the long run and isn’t effective at accomplishing a parent’s goal of teaching their children good behavior and being good to others. Because if the child grows up hearing such, won’t he also see it as normal to do?

Dear parent, why don’t you pray for your child everytime he does something that is not good… “May Allah guide you” “May Allah perfect your character”, “May Allah set your affairs aright” etx. Remember, one of the accepted dua’s is that of a parent for his child.
Moreover Allah tells us to say that which is good; “And tell my servants to say that which is best.” (17: 53)

May Allah allow us to say what is absolutely best to our children and allow us to parent effectively without resorting to insults and curses.